The Cleveland Browns Myles Garrett has been suspended for swinging at Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback Mason Rudolph. Garrett maintains Rudolph used a racial slur in the final minutes of the game. But evidentially the powers who control disciplinary action in the NFL believe otherwise.

So who are you going to believe?

It reminds me of something I once read in a book by the late Israeli Child Psychologist Haim Ginott. According to Dr. Ginott, if you have two young children who get into a confrontation in their upstairs bedroom and you arrive to find out who started the problem so you can discipline the guilty child, when you ask who started the fight each blames the other. And so you have to find a way to come up with the truth. You hand each of them a blank sheet of paper with a pencil and tell them to write down exactly what happened. The one who is telling the truth will immediately vigorously begin writing his side of the story, while the one who is not telling the truth will almost always say: “That’s stupid. I’m not going to do that.” And throws the paper and pencil on the floor and stomps out of the room.

Ginott, by the way, never had children of his own, but did possess a great amount of insight and creativity.