Mind Over Sports

TIGER NEEDS A “SIGNIFICANT OTHER” IN HIS LIFE.

Posted by: mindoversports on: May 20, 2012

I must admit, I’ve been wrong for quite a while now when I’ve assumed that Tiger’s current problem is related to his divorce and his relationship to his ex-wife when dealing with everyday issues involving their children. I’ve been dead wrong.

I’ve just finishing reading Steve Helling’s book called “Tiger” and it’s now obvious that what brought Tiger out of his past slumps was a meaningful relationship (not one night stands) with a beautiful well-educated woman whom he admired and would consider marrying. In other words, a “significant other.”

I’ve always maintained that when athletes are happy and their lives are in harmony they will perform close to their skill levels on a consistent basis. And Tiger is no different. In 1999, after a two year slump, he met Joanna Jagoda, a pretty blond co-ed at Cal-Santa Barbara who was not only beautiful but also intelligent and ambitious with an intent on attending law school. As soon as they began dating, including her taking trips with Tiger to tournaments around the globe, Tiger returned to dominance and as Helling points out in his book, “beginning a three year winning streak that would cement his spot as one of golf’s best players.” But in 2001, his relationship with Joanna began to fade (along with caddie problems he was experiencing) and his game suffered. And it was then that he met Elin Nordegren, another highly intelligent, beautiful, statuesque blond. In 2003, he ended his relationship with Joanna and began dating Elin exclusively and suddenly, his game returned to the Tiger of old.

But today, Tiger does not have that meaningful relationship with a beautiful, intelligent well-educated woman. Unfortunately, many of the women who appeal to Tiger are turned off by his past behavior and so it’s probably pretty difficult for him to find a “significant other.” But it will happen. And when it does, you’ll be able to tell. Just watch the leader board.

CLARESSA SHIELDS AND YOUNG WOMEN IN BOXING.

Posted by: mindoversports on: May 13, 2012

Those of you who follow women in boxing know the names of daughters of some of our most famous fighters: Laila Ali, Jaqui Frazier and Freeda Foreman. But in the May 7, 2012 issue of The New Yorker there was an excellent article about young women, especially African-American women, who have taken up boxing in an attempt to improve their quality of life and the quality of life for their families. One of these young women is named Claressa Shields and she’s expected to win a gold medal in the upcoming London Olympics.

From my perspective, I felt one important aspect to the article was a comment made by Hal Adonis, a rickety white man in his 70’s who is president of USA Boxing. According to the article, Adonis has never had a problem with women in boxing. His criteria for inclusion had nothing to do with gender. “When kids call me up,” he said, “I say, let me ask you an honest question: have your parents ever hit you? If they say no, I say, I don’t think you belong in boxing.” The article went on to point out that Adonis himself was qualified to box because “my father invented child abuse,” he said, with an incongruous smile. “I learned how to play chess when I was six years old. My father would have a strap and smack me across the face if I made a wrong move. So when I got onto the streets and got into boxing, I was so used to getting hit it was like ‘Hey, this is nothing.’” When he trained kids, he said, “before a fight I’d start smacking them real hard in the face. Because you feel, in boxing, the first couple punches. After that, the endorphins kick in and it’s like someone gave you Novocain.”

There are many who share Adonis’ belief that a childhood scorched by abuse is advantageous to a boxer. “It definitely takes a different kind of life experience,” Carrie Barry, a two-time national champion said. She was battered by her mother until she was twelve, and then thrown out of the house. “You have to have some kind of fight in you. You have to have something to overcome.”

The thing about professional athletes is…they are human being just like the rest of us mortal beings. They have feelings. They have emotions. They get upset just like we do. And as I’ve often said: What takes place away from the baseball field affects what takes place on the baseball field. And if I were paying Albert $250 million I would ask his opinion about anything that involved him.
Case in point:
When Albert first arrived in California, the Angels began marketing him with a billboard campaign centered around the nickname “El Hombre,” a nickname Pujols doesn’t like. The reason he doesn’t like it is in deference to St. Louis Cardinals Hall of Famer Stan “The Man” Musial. At the time, the Angels vice-president for communications said the “El Hombre” signs represented only 20 of 70 Angels billboards in Los Angeles, Orange and Riverside counties. But even if it only represented one billboard, if he doesn’t like the concept, they should have gotten rid of it pronto.
And that could be just the tip of the iceberg. It could be an indication of what’s taking place behind the scenes. That the Angels are making decisions involving the marketing of Albert without any input from him. And if this is what’s happening, no small wonder he’s irritated and not performing at his skill level. One thing Albert is probably finding out. They do things differently in California than they do in Missouri. Unfortunately.

HOW SELF-ESTEEM AFFECTS PERFORMANCE.

Posted by: mindoversports on: May 6, 2012

Someone recently asked me what I did for a living and I told them I was a writer. When they asked what I wrote about I said: “Self-esteem and how it affects performance in both positive and negative ways.” They wanted to know more so I explained to them, for example, that if you were an athlete (or a corporate executive) and you are “withholding” – that is, keeping your feelings and emotions bottled-up inside yourself – it impacts how you feel about yourself. Withholding is a form of lying that demeans us and lowers our self-esteem, creating psychological baggage that affects our ability to focus and process information.
And because “we see things as we are,” when we withhold, we begin to think negatively and see the world around us from a negative perspective. We create a negative self-image cycle and begin to create negative events in our lives that not only affect our performance, but also our health.
But if we don’t withhold, if we are honest with our feelings and emotions, we will create a positive self-image cycle and begin to create positive events in our lives.
If you are reading this and would like to have a complimentary copy of an e-book I’ve written entitled “Mind Over Sports. The Relationship of Self-Esteem to Athletic Performance” send me an e-mail and I’ll send you a copy. The book is for athletes, coaches and parents. My e-mail address appears on the upper right side of this website. But in case you can’t find it, it’s marv@mindoversports.com.

The “Billy Goat Curse” is the granddaddy of all Major League Baseball superstitions. For those of you who may not be familiar with the curse, here’s what happened based on information gathered from the Internet:

On Oct, 6th 1945 a Greek tavern owner by the name of William “BILLY GOAT” Sianis (that was his nickname because of the goatee he always had) bought box seats for the 4th game of the World Series in Chicago against Detroit. He bought one ticket for himself and one for his goat Murphy. The Cubs had won 2 out of 3 in Detroit and were favored to win it all in Chicago. In the past Billy Goat had always been allowed to bring his goat to the games, Murphy always had his own ticket. This time, however, as Sianis walked into Wrigley Field the ushers stopped him, telling him that no goats were allowed. When Billy Goat asked for an appeal directly to owner P.K. Wrigley, P.K. told them to allow Billy Goat in but not Murphy. When Billy Goat asked why, P.K. said, “Because the goat smells!” That upset Sianis and standing in front of Wrigley Field, in retaliation, he raised both hands and said, “Cubs, they not gonna win anymore. Never again will World Series be played in Wrigley Field” Casting what has become known as the “BILLY GOAT CURSE” over the Cubs. Subsequently, the Tigers won the next 3 games and the series and the Cubs have never been back. The Cubs’ loss prompted Billy Goat to send a telegram to P.K. Wrigley asking, “Who smells now?” Perhaps when the Cubs move out of Wrigley field, the curse will disappear?

I’ve mentioned the “Billy Goat Curse” because baseball is a sport with a long history of superstition. According to Wikipedia, from the very famous “Curse of the Bambino” (see below) to some players’ refusal to wash their clothes or bodies after a win, superstition is present in all parts of baseball. Many baseball players—batters, pitchers, and fielders alike— perform elaborate, repetitive routines prior to pitches and at bats due to superstition. The desire to keep a number they have been successful with is strong in baseball. In fact anything that happens prior to something good or bad in baseball can give birth to a new superstition. Some players rely on a level of meta-superstition: by believing in superstitions they can focus their mind to perform better.
Some of the more common superstitions include purposely stepping on or avoiding stepping on the foul line when taking the field, and not talking about a no-hitter or perfect game while it is in progress, a superstition that also holds for fans and announcers. Others include routines such as tapping the bat on the plate before an at bat, and drawing in the dirt in the batter’s box before an at bat.

What an athlete believes to be true is true for him or her, regardless of whether or not it’s true in the real word. Wade Boggs believed that eating only chicken before a game helped his performance on the field, and it did. When he was inducted into Baseball’s Hall of Fame, he thanked his father, who was sitting on the front row, but it seems to be he should also have thanked Kentucky Fried Chicken. ☺

As for the “Curse of the Bambino,” the Red Sox finally ended it by beating the St. Louis Cardinals in the 2004 World Series, 4-0. But they had a little help. What most people don’t know is that immediately after the season ended the Cardinals fired their hitting coach, Mitchell Paige, and sent him on his way, encouraging him to enter an alcohol treatment center, which he did. In most situations, when a player or coach with a “drinking problem” is let go, it’s generally understood they can return once they have their addiction under control. No so with Mitchell Paige. He was flat out fired. Period. Which tells me something pretty bad had taken place behind the scenes during the series. Something that affected team chemistry and subsequently caused them to lose four straight games to the Red Sox. So much for that “curse.” Mitchell, by the way, recently passed away, March 13, 2011.

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